The Cutest Thing Around

"Isn't she just the cutest little thing!"

If you have children, you've probably heard simlar things when you are out and about. People love to see cute little children. I admit I've even said the same thing to many moms myself. The words themselves are relatively harmless. However, there can be a real danger in the attitude behind the words.


We've been inundated with "self-esteem" propaganda. Teachers are highly trained in creating a high self-esteem in their students. Parents are often worried that their little one will feel badly about himself. I've even read that it can be damaging to your baby or toddler to tell him his poopy diaper is stinky. After all, he might feel bad if you tell him that something that he did is <gasp> yucky!


But is this really a healthy way to raise children? Not if we want them to see their sins. Not if we want them to realize their need of a Savior.


Now, I'm not saying that children should be belittled, criticized or verbally damaged in order to be saved. Not at all. But they do need a healthy dose of reality. And the reality is that they were born sinful.

Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity,

And in sin my mother conceived me. 

                Psalm 51:5 (NASB)

The natural tendency of all human beings is to be egotistical, self-centered, self-serving. And it begins from the very beginning.  I never had to teach my children to lie to me. Or to hit their siblings. Or to take things that aren't theirs. On the contrary, I have to teach them to not to do those things. 


Ultimately, we as parents have the responsibility to teach our children to deny themselves. To serve others. To humble themselves. To see their need for Christ. That they indeed aren't  the cutest thing around.


**I got the title for this post from this sermon I posted a few days back. I had heard the sermon before when he preached it at another Bible camp I was attending. I watched the entire thing again and it was definitely worth my time. Please take the time to watch it and hear what this dear brother shares from the scriptures about raising children. 

                   

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Godly Parenting - by Bob Jennings

Boy Wanted

To begin our school day, we start with a chapter of the New Testament followed by a chapter from the Old Testament. Then we work on memorizing A Baptist Catechism, then we read a chapter or section from a book focusing on character. Right now we are working through this one:

I really love today's reading. As the mom of a teenage son I found it summed up very well my goals for his character. I remember reading it to him when he was very little and thinking how rambunctious he was and feeling a little like I was failing him in the area of child training. Now, however, although he is far from perfect, I can truly say that I am very proud of the young man he has become and I can see the hand of God shaping him into what He wants him to be. 

BOY WANTED

This "want ad" appeared in the early part of [the 20th] century.

WANTED - A boy that stands straight, sits straight, acts straight, and talks straight;

A boy whose fingernails are not in mourning, whose ears are clean, whose shoes are polished, whose clothes are brushed, whose hair is combed, and whose teeth are well cared for;

A boy who listens carefully when he is spoken to, who asks questions when he does not understand, and does not ask questions about things that are none of his business;

A boy that moves quickly and makes as little noise about it as possible;

A boy who whistles in the street, but does not whistle where he ought keep still;

A boy who looks cheerful, has a ready smile for everybody, and never sulks;

A boy who is polite to every man and respectful to every woman and girl;

A boy who does not smoke cigarettes and has no desire to learn how;

A boy who is more eager to know how to speak good English than to talk slang;

A boy that never bullies other boys nor allows other boys to bully him;

A boy who, when he does not know a thing says, "I don’t know," and when has made a mistake says "I’m sorry," and when he is asked to do a thing says "I’ll try";

A boy who looks you right in the eye and tells the truth every time;

A boy who is eager to read good books;

A boy who would rather put in his spare time at the YMCA gymnasium than to gamble for pennies in a back room;

A boy who does not want to be "smart" nor in any wise attract attention;

A boy who would rather lose his job or be expelled from school than to tell a lie or be a cad;

A boy whom other boys like;

A boy who is at ease in the company of girls;

A boy who is not sorry for himself, and not forever thinking and talking about himself;

A boy who is friendly with his mother, and more intimate with her than anyone else;

A boy who makes you feel good when he is around;

A boy who is not a goody-goody, a prig, or a little pharisee, but just healthy, happy, and full of life;

This boy is wanted everywhere. The family wants him, the school wants him, the office wants him, the boys want him, the girls want him, all creation wants him.

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Quoted in The Children's Book of Virtues
by William J. Bennet

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